Tapping In Public

in Public
One of the most frequently asked questions at our workshops and by our

clients is - What happens if my problem occurs when I am out in public!

Obviously most people are going to feel nervous about tapping on points

on their face and body out in public as this looks rather strange. And

that can be an issue because many of our emotional problems actually

occur when we are in public places.

I remember way back in February 1998 after Gary's Ultimate

Therapist Workshop sitting in a San Francisco caf tapping away on the

EFT points after a 1-hour bus ride sitting next to a woman with strong

perfume had left me with a severe headache. Dr. David Lake sat next to

me, tapping along. A street beggar came along, took one look at us, and

gave us a wide berth! Although the headache went away, and the

petrochemical sensitivity has also almost totally dissipated since that

time, that incident reminded me how strange the tapping process can

appear to members of the general public.

Over the years we have come up with the following advice if you have a

problem that occurs in public places, or if you find yourself in a

public place needing to tap.

1. Tap before you go - Anticipate / Prepare / Prevent.

Obviously

the best outcome is to not have to have your problem come up in the

public space at all. This means if you have a problem such as anxiety

that is likely to be provoked by being in a public situation, the best

thing to do is to think about all the situations where the anxiety

might occur ahead of time and tap whilst focusing on those

possibilities. At the very least this can often reduce the intensity of

the emotion if it does happen, to a more manageable level. If you are

able to get to the point where you can think about being in the

situation (i.e. speaking in public) and thinking about it doesn't

produce any emotion, there is a good chance that when you go out there

either the emotion won't occur or it will be at a lesser level.

2. Tap "as you go".

Let's say you have a fear of

public speaking and you have to give a speech at your friend's wedding.

During the days leading up to the event you will have tapped whilst

imagining yourself at the wedding reception giving the speech, you will

have tried to identify all the various aspects of speaking in public

that might provoke your fear and applied tapping to them, and you would

have applied tapping to emotionally intense past speaking events. As

you get ready to attend the event and on the way to the event you can

also tap. We encourage our clients to tap when they are in the car when

stopped at a red light or stop sign. As long as your focus is on the

road and at least one hand is on the steering wheel you can also tap on

some of the points as you drive along.

3. Excuse yourself...

If it's possible you can

excuse yourself from the situation and go off somewhere private to do

some tapping. This may mean for example dashing to the loo (toilet)

just before your speech and getting in a few rounds of tapping. Usually

this will be sufficient to reduce your anxiety to a more manageable

level.

4. Touching or rubbing the points.

If you have

done steps 1-3 and you still have anxiety when you get into the

situation, or your anxiety arises "out of the blue" whilst out in

public, you can try just lightly touching or rubbing on some of the

points. Often this can be done quite unobtrusively and a few light rubs

on selected points can take the edge off the anxiety so that you can

function in the situation. If you have done a lot of EFT or SET at

home, often just rubbing on the first point in the sequence can

initiate a significant shift in intensity.

5. Your favourite point.

After you have been

tapping for a while it is common to identify a favourite point which

produces quite large shifts for you. For me it is the side of eye

point. Often, instead of needing to do a full sequence of tapping, I

can just tap a few times on this point and produce a major shift in

intensity. Once you have identified a point such as this it can be

quite handy if you have only a few seconds before you have to perform

in public to just tap a few times on that point before you go on stage,

or when out in public to just lightly rub the point in a non-obvious

way.

6. The finger points.

The finger points can be

tapped under the table or behind your back, however the best way we

have found to do this is to use the thumb of the same hand to tap on

the finger points of that hand. This process, which was first

introduced by Dr. David Lake as "Continual Tapping" can be done quite

easily out in public and is very unobtrusive. It can also be done under

the table or behind the back without being noticed. Even when done

publicly most people don't pay much attention to it. Once on an

aeroplane I noticed the gentleman next to me absently tapping on these

points - and he didn't even know EFT! A golfer I worked with found she

could just tap on these points after a bad shot and reduce her tension

prior to the next shot.

7. Imagine the tapping.

It is also possible to get a significant reduction in intensity just

"imagining" that you are tapping on the points. In one of our workshops

a woman overcame her life-long spider phobia just imagining that she

was tapping on the points, with no physical tapping at all! It seems

strange to many people that this can work but our experience is that at

least 80% of people can get a result without needing any further

instruction than what I have told you right here! Try it and see. You

may be surprised. It is easy to believe that we can point a remote

control at a television to get it to turn on, why should it be

surprising that we can use our own intention to produce a result in our

own mind-body?
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This article was published on 2010/11/28